I was talking to someone earlier today when we started talking about terms used by men about their women or women referring to themselves as these ‘titles’ as badges of honor. So I hadnt posted in a few days so I thought I would put my thoughts here.
The term ‘whore’ by society is a negetive label. Taboo at best and a disgusting portrayal of a lady. however..in the bedroom of intimacy whereas BDSM or the D/S lifestyle is practiced esp online..it is a common term. Their are several that would suggest this. Whore, Slut, beast, animal, submissive and slave. Now I threw sub and slave in there because I have noticed thru my travles that each are treated a bit different. So back to the terms.
From the Urban Dictionary:
A woman that sleeps with everyone but YOU!!!!!
SEE: SLUT – A woman that sleeps with everyone.
From Websters Dictionary:
Definition of WHORE
1: a woman who engages in sexual acts for money : prostitute; also : a promiscuous or immoral woman
2: a male who engages in sexual acts for money
and From online dictionary.com
whore /hɔr, hoʊr or, often, hʊər/ Show Spelled [hawr, hohr or, often, hoor] Show IPA noun, verb, whored, whor·ing.noun 1.a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet.
hummmmm…Im seeing a pattern here. None of the above is a term of endearment nor a lifestyle (BDSM, D/S) term. Not sure who started it or why it is so widely used these days.
Lets look at slut:
From Urban Dictionary
Someone who provides a very needed service for the community and sleeps with everyone, even the guy that has no shot at getting laid and everyone knows it. She will give him a sympathy fuck either because someone asked her to or she just has to fuck everyone she knows. These are great people, and without them sex crimes would definitly increase. Thank you slut, where ever you are. slut. A derogatory term
Definition of SLUT
1chiefly British : a slovenly woman
2a : a promiscuous woman; especially : prostitute b : a saucy girl : minx
Now slut…MAYBE…after reading the defintions posted here and some on my own well..I would say that might be in line..a slut enjoys sex and sometimes with many. Well I can live with that one.
beast or animal:
This is a tuffy and Im not going to look up definitions because it is obvious.
beast: suggest animal like and wild. (yea I get that)
animal: perhaps the same or one that needs tamed or put on a leash? (ok I get that too)
pet: both of the above..and generally you call you pet a pet and I do consider it endearing.
submissive and slave. Well this has been debated since the beginning of time I think. I have seen women who believe themselves to be slaves. They rule to roost *lol….so..slave? NO. So anyway..a real slave..very few exsist to be sure. A slave has no say so..no voice..will do whatever pleases the Dominant. NO questions ask. their sole purpose in life is to be pleasing. submissive. Certainly has an opinion. more a partner really but sexually behaves as the bottom. Now I could go deeper into the whole submissive slave thing but I wont..its a term I would think needed to be agreed upon in any D/S relationship as guidelines and bounderies are discussed.
I still believe after all this..the term ‘whore’ is an ugly term for any woman unless you are truely a whore. One who fucks everyone and generally does it for money. slut? well a woman that enjoys sex with many..now heres a titi twister for ya…a Man that is possessive and jealous calls his girl slut, the very one that doesnt want her to be with anyone else but him. and what was the definition of slut again?
as a disclaimer..I will say that in role play you can play whatever you want and it really doesnt matter..but when you are YOU..careful, for perception generally is reality.
just my thoughts on a rainy afternoon~